First off, Welcome to CZ Forum! You should post a thread introducing yourself. Ok, now to what you came here for...
My experience doesn't allow me to answer all of your questions, but I will do what i can until someone with more experience pipes in.
The CZ-USA catalog lists the specs (every spec) for the 75B in either 9mm (my personal favorite) and the .40 S&W as identical. Across the board. So I don't think that the .40 slide is any beefier. I could be wrong, but in order to keep the specs identical for both but enhance the .40, they would have had to have taken from somewhere else and I'm quite sure that they haven't. Also, I have held the two, and there is no difference there.
As to the decocker and ambidexterous slide release, well, the 75B doesn't have ambi. The 75BD has a decocker, but for the ambi controls, I believe you are looking at the 85 line (B/Combat). The 85 doesn't appear to have a decocker (again, looking at the 2011/12 catalog).
Feeding issues shouldn't be, well, an issue.
I have fired and experienced some problems with the .40 S&W in other firearms, but with the 75/85, you are getting a full-size, combat ready firearm made by one of (hey; THE) finest small arms manufacturers on Earth.
That brings me to my last point, in answer to the question you never asked haha! In a choice between the 9mm Para and the .40 S&W, I would take 9mm every time. Why? In spite of the fact that the .40 is, ballistically, a more potent round, things in general just seem to work better in 9mm. The .40 is a relatively new round, and I think that there are just fundamental problems with it. I don't like the truncated cone, and I don't like the fact that the .40 seems to produce more felt recoil than even a .45 ACP. Is the recoil from a .40 unmanageable? Not at all. Is it unpleasant to me personally? Yeah, but not so much that I wouldn't consider buying another pistol chambered for it sometime in the future. But again, that's just me.
So all things considered, I think that the choice here should be which round are you going to be happier with. Which will allow you to go out and shoot more? Which will make you feel secure in the caliber you have chosen? And finally, will you be willing to either stock another caliber or build your pistol collection around the .40 S&W. Pure personal choice. But you should feel confident that when you purchase a CZ pistol, in any caliber, you will be getting a well-made, naturally-pointing, and beautiful firearm that will last you for years to come.
Hmm... Stuck with 10-rounders?
That might factor into my decision on caliber choice too...
And finally (finally), again; welcome to CZ Forum. You'll love it here!
Regards,
Dan